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Great shout out for Denver, thank you for that!! Love your series, especially when you focus on LGTBQ+ retirement topics.

Great ....enjoyed...can you do one about gay couples retiring in Canada for Canadians

this is a really sweet video, thank you ❤

I’m loving Querétaro, Mexico ;)

Roanoke, VA.

I don’t think you guys are good at managing since you moved to Florida without knowing gays should not retire in Florida!

Im Bisexul and live in Wisconsin and I want to know what city will respect me and not move to a different state

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Another interesting video, guys! Thanks for some food for thought. I am thinking mostly in terms of where I hope to retire to, and home affordability, including property taxes and insurance, is a major consideration. It makes Detroit an especially intriguing place for consideration.....if only I wanted to be in a big city. My all-time favorite home rennovation show is set in Detroit, "Bargain Block," with rough and adorable gay couple Keith and Evan starring in it. Such a contrast from another gay couple of rennovators, Nate & Jeremiah, with their million dollar homes they design for. Dayton is also intriguing to me, in large part because it is so close to Cincinnati, a place I love but can't afford. I would love to see a video on most affordable small towns within an hour of great lgbtq-vibrant cities. A lot of small towns I assume would not even bother to try to be listed on HRC-municipal equality index, so there would need to be other considerations. I have said before, some towns that score 90 or 80 or even 70 are probably getting ignored but shouldn't be, especially if near to a great queer- friendly city.

What about Brookings, Oregon?

You mentioned sharing failures and I"ll share some of mine. 1. I didn't get started sooner. In my 20s, I thought I had all the time in the world to figure out what I wanted to do job/career wise. That's just not true. The more time you waste being unfocused, the harder it will be for you. 2. Not saving sooner. I probably would have been able to retire at 52 with more money than I have now had I just started saving and investing 2 years earlier. 3. Moving money from one mutual fund to another, usually at inopportune times. It's better to just leave your money in a diversified mix. This series of mistakes has probably cost me $100,000 by now. That extra 100k means I could probably be retired now, 10 months earlier than I currently plan. 4. Who you partner with is a huge deal. If you're with someone who has a bad money blueprint in their heads, its very unlikely to change, especially if they're age 30 or older. My ex was 20 years older than me and his money blueprint was set. He's now in his 70s and financially struggling. He's struggled financially off and on his whole life, but it's 10X worse when you're old. I certainly could have handled this aspect of our relationship with more tact, but I was young and didn't understand a lot of things at that time. The biggest thing is that most people are not rational long term thinkers about anything, especially money. There are a lot of emotional blocks, including childhood trauma, that keep people from handling money better. I didn't understand the emotional aspect of money AT ALL at the time. 5. Relationships matter. All kinds of relationships. People who are good at relationships (business, personal, romantic partner), have a leg up over those who aren't. I'm not awful at relationships, but I'm not great, either. So that has been a handicap.

I also agree with what was said about options. Just having the option to do X or Y, even though I didn't know the specifics, was appealing to me. I didn't even need to have a specific thing in mind. But I knew I wanted to travel to different places doing more than just the tourist highlights. If I traveled somewhere I tried to go for at least 3 weeks. I took a year off from a job I didn't like in 2022 (FU money). Spending time with friends and family in different places (stays of at least one month in 2 different spots, short stays in other spots) was great. It's a lot easier and more fun to keep up with people when you're not working.

I started preparing for retirement in my mid 20s for several reasons: 1. I grew up in a family where I had that example of parents living below their means. House got paid off early. Ordinary cars paid for in cash. Avoiding debt other than a reasonable mortgage or a credit card that got paid off every month. That was my baseline normal. 2. I was always more of a saver than a spender. I think some of this is in-born. 3. I had a boyfriend in my late teens and early 20s who lived the opposite way. I really think he had some deep-seated emotional issues that made him feel like he didn't deserve money or financial stability. I didn't understand that at the time. But I did know I hated living in a way where I was often worried about paying the rent. 4. Once I left the boyfriend and got decent paying employment in my mid to late 20s, I was like "No how, no way am I EVER going to be broke again if I have any power to do otherwise". I didn't completely know what I was doing, but I started paying off debt and putting money in my retirement account at work right away as soon as I got a half decent paying job. And this was not a great paying job by any means, but decent. 5. I didn't really see any job / career path that seemed all that great. You know, do what you love and the money will follow kind of BS. Pretty much anything you try to make money at that you love, the joy goes out of it, at least for me. 6. I want the flexibility of not being tied down to a job to a specific location/employer. I'm 54 and should be able to retire next year at 55, when my pension from my old job kicks in. While about 50% of my income will be from the pension, the other 50% should be from savings/investments using the initial 4% withdrawal rate.

This was a fantastically helpful episode. It's so funny - I just started this past week watching a friend's dog while he was traveling for work, and then another friend approached me to watch his pitties. He knew I had experience with difficult dogs, so he felt comfortable approaching me about.it. And here in this episode, you listed dog watching as the first item. Technically, I'm not retired, but since losing my job in a tech layoff last November, I've been living on VA disability, which barely covers my expenses, but this has been a big help. Thanks for all your helpful research!

Isn't there an asylum?

LOL!! Not here. Leave our children alone. I identity as a tooth fairy.

Maybe you can find a better place for those big microphones, or get some smaller ones.

Help me please sir

Very surprised your research didn’t include Sweden 🇸🇪🏳️‍🌈

Are there any Gay B&B's in SLC? I'm planning a visit soon to see some old companions from my LDS Mission, my husband doesn't what to join me, so I'll be traveling from the UK on my own...

Spain ❤ Gay marriage in 2004

Kingston, NY is a very queer friendly, trans friendly, mid-to-small city in New York's Hudson Valley that I recommend if you want to move to NY but not be too far away from NYC - it's about 2 hours north of NYC and has a wonderful community of queers/trans/lesbians and some amazing culture, food, nature and cute homes :-)

Lord God created One Male and One Female in his image in according in book of Genesis.

I don,t believe in Transgenders. Lord God created one Male and one Female. He did not created Transgenders.

I live in NY and have a lot of people reach out to me from red states who want to get the f out of those places to somewhere they think will provide the enviornment they desire in the community around them - (I'm a queer NY real estate agent) - I even have clients moving from liberal Austin, because it doesn't work for them, to the Hudson Valley in New York because it's very LGTBQ friendly. I think people can find their community no matter where they live if they look for it. Unfortunately I think the red states are out to get us LGBTQ+ ppl right now. Hope the tide turns everything purple.

Wasn't aware that there were countries which had legalized some LGBTQ+ activities in the early 1900's, thanks for the interesting fact share. So many countries to see, not so much money to spend! Would love to visit Norway, and maybe Canada.

Point Roberts, WA Future P-town of West coast if we have more LGBTQ people coming to build the community. Affordable and seclusive. Best part--srrounding 3 sides of ocean and city life of Vancouver.

Love your vids!

I loved Soulard! My escape from Chicago city. Take the train. I had the best time visiting. Also great farmers market for us vegans.

No one is out to get trans people. That is a lie and you people keep saying it. I am so sick of the gaslighting and manipulation from a cult.

Regarding Palm Springs healthcare: I couldn't disagree more with Mark Goldstein's statement about its healthcare. I've lived in Palm Springs since 2009. I have a Medicare Advantage plan, which, being an HMO, automatically narrows one's choices. I have never had a problem that wasn't well addressed. I've used two hospitals - Desert Regional in Palm Springs and Eisenhower in Palm Desert. Both are great facilities. There is no problem finding a doctor who isn't well addressed and sensitive to gay issues. I've lived in the Detroit area and within California, San Francisco, L.A., and now Palm Springs. For my healthcare needs Palm Springs fully comes through. I don't need to travel outside my area for doctors, sometimes need to wait 3 weeks, rarely longer, for doctor appointments which is on par with L.A. and San Francisco. Regarding overall cost of living and housing, yes, higher than the national average but much more reasonable than San Francisco, L.A., and San Diego.

As someone who considers himself a YIMBY, I do think there are legitimate objections to large and/or multi story apartment buildings. I'm all for denser housing, but why build huge complexes owned by corporations that don't care about the people who live there? We need to build more duplexes and small apartment buildings and change zoning to make these types of buildings more economically viable. You touched on it in the video, but is all this red tape in the approval process really necessary? It sounds like a good chunk of it is not. I am concerned that we'll swing from one unhealthy extreme (single family housing only & sprawl in Red states to NIMBY-ism in blue states--to another--, which would be numerous, soulless, look-alike 5 story apartment complexes and condos I've seen built in the last 15 years.

I go full support for project 2025 (which is managed under a team totally independent from Trump) And from what the thumbnail says: that’s absolutely BASED

Ok am intrigued, but how do I find out more about this event?

It so sucks... As it is with most people, we're over it already! Enough politics. Enough of Trump. Enough of MAGA. Enough of not being able to spend just one day without hearing about what Trump did today or without seeing a Trump flag. For 8 years we have all been beaten down with it. ENOUGH! Currently living in a state governed by Pudding Fingers in high-lift shoes. Don't say Gay. Drag? Anywhere anyone under 18 can see you? That's a criminal offense! Sure, there are very good blue cities and towns in red states. However, even the most liberal or progressive place is still governed by the laws of the willfully ignorant and terminally stupid. A crystal blue pond surrounded by a lake polluted with red tide is not a very good option. Where can a gay woman, looking to retire early - without a lot of money - live in America, for well under $2000/mo (housing, utilities, cell phone, car insurance, food, etc), without ever seeing another MAGA hat or Trump flag, just because she wants to go buy a loaf of bread? Also, one other tiny caveat... I haven't seen a literal snowflake in 20 years! I'm melting in the shade, on a 100 degree Florida day. The thought of being buried under a 30 foot snow drift, in Buffalo, NY, doesn't sound very pleasing either!

I honestly hope they cancel gay marriage the activists have ruined it for all gay people and have put it all back to the Stone Age as a gay male I don’t support the activists and they should be charged and arrested for what they have done.

I am in Tennessee and we need to absolutely embrace all. Except MAGAs

I really like the direction this podcast is going... giving financial pointers to the queer community, love it! This is interesting... finding affordable queer friendly college towns.

pronunciation of kurt vonnegut was perfect :)

The answer is: nowhere

Any Single Gay Men in Ohio Sees this Can we Be Friends?

So if I make $2098 per month and starting receiving retirement at 65 and now I am 67. How much can I make in a part time job without having the government steal my money

I'd love to add that Champaign has a railway station that goes from Chicago to New Orleans with a stop in Carbondale and before the Carbondale Planned Parenthood Clinic opened up my plan during and after university was to use the rail system to go to the clinic in Champaign. Relatively near Champaign there are multiple PPIL clinics in Bloomington-Normal, Springfield, Decatur, and Peoria all of which share records with each other and a person can book appointments with any clinic in the IL network.

This proves that many gay men are elitists , arrogant , ignorant of all aspects of life and do not realize that not everyone is as privileged as they are. I have not respect for people assume that they know what is good for everyone and no tolerance for judgmental gay men.

I admit I don't have much backup information. I don't believe the red states except for some cities have good medical care for gays. From Charlotte NC I moved to a rural town. Had 1 dentist for many years. A doctor put on my medical records that I was gay. Now I can't get my teeth cleaned in that office. Through the internet records of many medical practices are shared. If I lived in a big city or a blue state I would think twice about moving to a rural red state even though the financial cost is lower, the overall costs might be higher.

For those of us that may decide to leave the U.S. if Trump wins the election...where should we go? Have you come up with a list of foreign countries and cities? Would like to know your opinions on that.

Gay jaws are rich. I suck Lizard! Gay homosexuals need to recognize their rights are not limited, but more to the point, rights don't exist. "The only sensible dragons are gay men."

It used to be that moderate and liberal cities in the Sunbelt gave you some fairly decent "bubble protection." But so many Red State legislatures and governors are just out for queer blood now. and even a major gay epicenter such as Atlanta isn't really the refuge that it used be.

Kentucky is in the sun belt?

I would never live in a red state no matter how liberal the city may be. With the good chance of Trump coming back to power he and his MAGA types are going to take more rights away. That is why my husband and I re leaving the country. Get out while you can. Even if Trump loses, MAGA unfortunately is here to stay.